The forces building against marriage are insurmountable; marriage is crumbling in the West, and may soon be almost gone. Don’t get married guys. It hurts me to say this, as I’ve always viewed a successful marriage as my main goal in life, and I’m one of the most romantic fools you’ll ever meet. But I can’t deny reality any longer. I address myself here to the ‘good guys’, the men who work hard, who treat women nicely, act responsible then get turned over by women who call them ‘boring’ and prefer to date them. Do you believe your value to a woman is purely to add a bit of color to her life, as someone to challenge her and keep her on her toes, as nothing but the bad boy who will prove to her that all men are scum? If so then by all means get married, but brace yourself for the very real possibility of what happens when your nuclear family goes nuclear. Dating and finding a wife is a game of numbers. To get a date you are going to have to talk to a certain volume of women, to get a girlfriend you’re going to have to get a certain volume of dates, and to get a wife you are going to have to work yourself through a certain volume of girlfriends. But as any serious young guy knows: Western women are sabotaging the game. I don’t sincerely think that older men have any appreciation of how bad things have gotten for young men looking for a date. If you are in possession of a decent character, if you believe you have a right to keep the fruits of your labour, and that no-one has the right to stop you from spending time with your own children, then consider Western marriage an extremely high-risk project.You are not a sacrificial lemming whose only option is to queue up on the cliff-top and jump, hoping for the best. Well, women are not the ones committing suicide en masse due to their kids being taken away and poisoned against them. They are not the ones divorced for no reason then kicked out of their house and forced to spend the rest of their lives labouring simply to meet the costs of a family that now hates them. Not only has marriage in the West become a losing proposition for a man, its an institution looking extremely vulnerable from a barrage of attacks from multiple directions. Already over the last three decades marriage has crumbled, and I see every sign that this trend will continue. Feminism is undoubtedly the single greatest cause of the breakdown of marriage, and this shouldn’t be any surprise, it was one of feminism’s stated goals from the very beginning to destroy marriage and the nuclear family, which were regarded as “Patriarchal” oppression of women. And while the odds of having a successful marriage shorten every year, the single lifestyle becomes ever more attractive for both men and women. There are seven main forces acting against marriage: 1. Breakdown of the heterosexual model in the west: What exactly is a Western wife offering to her Husband that she hasn’t already given to other men? She may have already shared her body with tens of other men, and she is likely to submit more to the masculine authority of her boss than she will ever do to you. The age-old model of masculine/ feminine differences and expectations in marriage has been totally eroded. What we have instead of the heterosexual model is an unstable and largely self-contradictory model based on androgyny and materialism. It’s a temporary arrangement, only held in place until some better ‘deal’ is on the table. 2. Diminishing social pressure: It’s an obvious point, but the stigma attached to ‘living in sin’ has collapsed in the now more secular West. What begins as a ‘try before you buy’ arrangement to live together first and see how things go, becomes entrenched as the standard, and then many people (well, men) wonder what the point of getting married would be. Not only is it increasingly socially acceptable not to marry, but also the sexual revolution is continuing at full pace, amounting to legitimising the ‘swinger’ lifestyle. I’m not saying it’s a good thing, I’m just saying its occurring. 3. Growing temptations and opportunities for cheating: Are you 100% sure that your wife will never cheat on you given the ever increasing opportunities for her to do this? If she works – which she probably will – then her chances of being tempted to stray are vastly increased. And if you have Internet access there is the chance some smooth-talking guy will start taking to her online, and before you can say “cybersex” there will be some electronic intimacy going on. 4. Distrust and the divorce industry: With the Western divorce courts outrageously biased against men, the prospect of a divorce is particularly frightening to a hard-working devoted man and particularly tempting to a bored, restless woman. There are huge financial interests from the legal industry to fan the flames of marital disharmony: divorce is a lucrative opportunity. Be aware that if your wife gets bored and hits you with a no-fault divorce, she will profit, the lawyers will profit, but you could be emotionally and financially destroyed. 5. The death of romance: The feminine, pure yearning for romance is dead. The object of the game for Western women today is to ‘enjoy their independence’. This is incompatible with what provokes a man to treat women romantically and commit to them. A man looks at a good-time girl and sees a good-time, he doesn’t see a feminine woman that he longs to cradle in his arms, protect and cater for. And the dirty little secret that the feminists don’t want you to know is that the good-time girl generation of Western women are riddled with sexually transmitted diseases, some of which lead to infertility. There is an epidemic. Particularly amongst teenagers, with their cellphones and Email it is easy for them to ‘hook up’, and why shouldn’t they? Ever since they were kids the TV, movies and magazines have been telling them there’s nothing wrong with it. When I now hear of a girl loosing her virginity at 12 or 14 I don’t even think it unusual anymore. 6. The pool of psychologically healthy people is drying up: Stable people make for stable marriages. This is something not often discussed because it offends a lot of sensibilities and is politically incorrect. As divorce and raising children outside marriage has skyrocketed over the past three decades the harm this has done to new generations is huge. Many now are very cynical about marriage, many are psychologically harmed; they have issues with trust, they have low self-esteem, depression, or simply no understanding of how family life can work. Many who have been brought up by a single mother have contempt for the very existence of fathers. Such a population of people does not bode well for fighting against the odds to make marriage work again. 7. Increased attractiveness of the singleton lifestyle:There are more perks for the single person than ever in history. Aside from the explosion of consumer choice in dining and entertainment there are now more product options for the sexually hungry. The unsavoury but honest truth is that there has been an explosion of single men (and even women) accessing the vast online reservoirs of pornography and women are now funding a fast-growing industry of vibrators, instant sexual satiation for a generation for whom commitment has become too unattractive. The river of the feminist-indoctrinated countries has a high percentage of fish that are poisonous to you. The reason that ‘no’ must be considered an option for men thinking of marriage is that the lifestyles, culture and expectations of Western women are now such that its an uphill struggle to successfully marry one. Even if we totally destroyed feminism tomorrow, its effects would continue for years. It would take probably one or two more generations to purge the feminist poison from our societies. Don’t think you can change one of these women; to think that is nothing short of arrogance. Don’t let other people, manipulate your emotions on this subject. Think it through rationally and assess whether you are willing to take the risk, whether you are willing to pay the price.
