SUPPORT MUFUMI NGO IN THEIR FIGHT TO BAN POLYGAMY IN UGANDA AND PROMOTE GENDER EQUALITY.
1. THESE MEN ARE CLAIMING THAT MEN WILL NOT BE SEXUALLY SATISIFIED.
“Do they know Viagra, the well-known blue pill designed to help with erectile dysfunction, made $411 million in profits within the first three months of its release,” why is that?
Is it also possible for a man to satisfy 2 or more women? is it possible to love 2or more women or are they married for cheap labor and reproducing machines?
Do they know that women can have multiple partners and will not need Viagra?
Most of males, would probably never suspect that there partner is cheating, not only because of the wife’s or girlfriends seeming disinterest in sex. Unfortunately, males are frequently left/divorced by their wives and girlfriends without ever knowing about their wives’ and girlfriends’ infidelities e.t.c. This is not only in the physical aspect but also emotional affairs as men especially those who have various wives don’t pay enough attention to there wives these affairs can even be worse than the physical ones.
Woman’s oestradiol level is positively associated with self-perceived physical attractiveness. Women with a higher oestradiol level also reported a greater likelihood of flirting, kissing and having a serious affair (but not a one-night stand) with a new partner.
Oestradiol levels were negatively associated with a woman’s satisfaction with her primary partner. “Oestradiol, an ovarian hormone linked to fertility, and sexual motivation.” However, that doesn’t mean they all engage in casual sex. Instead, they adopt a strategy of serial monogamy. My point here is it’s not only men that have sexual urges or feel the urge to be satisfied however for all of sexes it is a matter of self control and discipline.
Sexuality has been made a taboo for many women to even discuss, making them believe that ‘sexual purity’ is an identity to your character and can’t discuss any sexual experience, while men always go on about their fantasies and pleasures. IF a girl or woman acts the same way as a man she is labeled, I agree this is worldwide however i believe laws such as this will eventually change such beliefs. This is hypocritical, double standards and justifying immoral behavior.
It was until recently assumed that males and females experience Eros differently, with men actively undertaking the hunt, seduction, and penetration, and women passively enduring the experience. Only lately did the idea gain currency that women too have sexual desires. If a man claims a woman isn’t good in bed usually that means the man is not doing his job in that area and medical persons and physiologists will second this. Secondly if this is not the case there alternative measures that can be taken to improve this area.
Lower-class women have diminished sexual responsiveness and this deficit is attributed to their poor communication with their husbands, who have placed themselves as small gods in the relationship. They have to learn to adopt different attitudes toward self that encompass a woman’s right to be gratified, to experience her body as a source of pleasure, and to perceive an intimate relationship as one in which there is mutual satisfying exchange.
FACT: DID YOU KNOW THAT WOMEN ARE INITIATING 70%-75% OF DIVORCES (why??)
2. WOMEN ARE MORE THAN MEN THUS THEY NEED TO HELP. FACTS BELOW;
The population of women compared to men is statistically higher (95males per 100 females) this is according to the Uganda population and Housing census thus women are 5% more. However 43.9% are adults leaving 56.1% as children.
The reason for larger number of women is that, the life expectancy for women is higher than for men.
In the age 85-and-older category, there are more than twice as many women as men currently living. This can be due to the fact that men have risky jobs e.g. military, building e.t.c and also due to the fact that men are generally more careless and have bad health habits e.g smoking, drinking and high infidelity.
In nearly every country in the world, men are more than twice as likely to commit suicide than women. In some countries (such as Russia and Brazil), suicide rates among men are up to six times higher than those for women.e
Also there is a high infant mortality rate where boy babies are 25% more likely to die in infancy than girl babies. (Would go on to explain however too scientific).
How many of the women are of marrying age is also calculated starting from 15 while it is started at 18 for boy’s. Why? This is because girls are bearing children while quite young and are being forced to marry. One in five women have reported being sexually abused by the age of 15. So how many women are there from the age of 18? That is the fact we should be looking at not general statiscs that make men justify their actions.
3. MEN ARE SAYING THEY CAN AFFORD POLYGAMY.
The data also shows that 23.1% of homes are female headed, and 77% are male headed however of those 38.5% of the women are “bread winners.” This was in 2002 population census; I believe it has increased highly. Even without the data you can see the general trend in schools, offices, farms e.t.c women have become more hardworking and visionary.
IN the UACE exams 2009 girls performed better than boys in both sciences and arts the difference was small but nevertheless shouldn’t be ignored.
The statiscs showed that 77% of women were involved in agriculture. This is the backbone of Uganda’s economy. Women in the villages are involved in subsistence farming thus providing food and sources of income, why men are said to be the bread winners in rural areas is because they sell the produce from the farms, but in other words they sell what the woman has dug.
If these women didn’t farm for a year what would happen to Uganda?
Teenage boys are four times more likely than girls to drop out of school and represent more than 75% of the children referred to juvenile homes,
We also see Men are nearly three times more likely than women to abuse alcohol and twice as likely to abuse recreational drugs like marijuana, this is because men have refused to become good examples to there children as they are too busy ” satisfying there own pleasures and pro creating”.
People like Zuma are setting standards that will continue to show this trend it is difficult to be a good father to 20 children so why produce them shows how ” SUCH AFRICAN MEN” especially will publicly show there illiteracy and people continue to support moral decay (i.e his comment about bathing after unprotected sex)
Children need fathers to have an active role in their lives in order for them to flourish. Boys need role models and mentor’s to advise them and counsel them and this is a daily thing not on your Childs birthday after the mother has pestered you to say something. In the end Boy’s that would have been intelligent and moral citizens end up thinking it’s okay to do the same as their fathers.
I respect religion and I believe Muslims and Mormons have managed to thrive in their respective societies, In the Quran it say’s.”If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice. (The Noble Quran, 4:3)”
If you read the continuation it say’s
He later told men “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire…(4:129)”. It clearly proves that when Allah Almighty allowed polygamy, He only allowed it because (the Muslims) had an emergency; they had lost half of there men if not even more.
These continuous battles against the Muslims were very costly in terms of Muslim men’s lives. The women had to be taken care of one way or another. For this reason, Allah Almighty had revealed the Noble Verse 4:3 to Muhammad peace be upon him to solve the social problems that the Muslims were facing. That is why at the very beginning of the Noble Verse 4:3 we see Allah Almighty setting a conditional clause for Orphans “If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans…(4:3).” This Noble Verse came down for the purpose of protecting the Orphans and to increase the number of the Muslims by allowing the men to marry multiple wives (preferably from the grown Orphans at that time), up to four wives only. The purpose was absolutely not for man’s sexual pleasure nor privilege, nor was it to support man’s personal ego. (Can send you the articles I read to get this info if you want)
The bill should be set considering there laws, the Government should sit with the elders and decisions can be made.
The Muslim community comprises of 12.1% of the population. I believe that the bill will therefore affect 87.9% and this will enable Gender equality and also reduce the Aid’s rate.
These are purely my own views, and men should not take this in the wrong way this article is for those men who support polygamy, For the statiscs there different articles in the archives of Uganda bureau of statiscs and I can send you the data on request.
The number one problem that chauvinistic men have is they think they have understood “what women want” and are not capable of giving it to them. I want to explain the words i have used so that this is not misinterpreted as abusive or insulting as i intend for it to be informative and educative.
Basically chauvinism is extreme devotion to, and glorification of, one’s own nation or group i.e in this case MEN
Let us above all be on guard against blind chauvinism of any kind. Albert Einstein