Nothing comes close to the awkwardness of rejecting a guy on a prom night. (Not if you are the one getting rejected…that’s more embarrassing). But let’s face it, if someone thought high school and prom night was a time to think of marriage and proposals, they couldn’t really hope to avoid awkwardness. To forgo the uncomfortable moment for both of you, here are some tips that might be helpful for you as well as him –
They may sound as the lamest thing ever, but if said with appropriate amount of humor and sincerity, excuses might not sound so bad. He knows that it is a fake excuse, and you know that he knows too, but it can be more humane and cushion the blow.
Prom night can be a girl’s night together at a dance (mostly not) but this is a very polite way of rejecting a prom date. “Oh… my friends and Iare going together as a group,” and then an awkward sorry for the finishing touch. You can even promise to save him a dance.
Offer him help
If the guy has a secret admirer or a girl you know that would go out with him, set them up. Be careful to not set them up with someone you know well enough. Rather save him a dance than setting him up with an unknown person. Or just talk it out, and try to put sense into a mind that thinks throwing around marriage proposals at prom is okay. You would be doing that dude a favor.
Plans to ask someone else
Be direct but not unkind and tell him the truth that you are probably waiting on someone. Instead of flat out rejecting him (worst if you scoff or say ‘NO’) you can thank him and subtly indicate that you are interested in another guy. Take a photograph with him! It presumably took some guts to ask someone out and you were the one that dashed those hopes…so the least you can do is reject in a sensible manner. Why not offer to take a picture with him, not as a conciliatory prize (geez what an ego) but in a friendly manner.
Rejecting an ill-thought marriage proposal is necessary. Try to be kind, but be unwavering in your resolution and say “no” with conviction.