Our Great Culture, Heritage and Family Values
India is a country which cherishes its culture and heritage. This rich legacy is based on high moral and social values. One such set of values are our family values. One sees evidence of this abounding from the epics of Ramayana and Mahabharata to our modern Indian Constitution. The story of Shravana who cared from his aged and infirm parents and Karna who gave his life in keeping his promise to his mother are known to every Indian worth his salt.
There is a saying “Unity is strength”. A united, value based family is strong and can face any ordeal together. While the west is now rediscovering family values, India is throwing it all away, like garbage!
Empowerment sans Responsibility
Take for example the cherished value of “protecting women”. A bunch of people in Parliament who forgot that word “women” includes mothers, sisters, daughters, grandmothers, grand-daughters, aunts, nieces and not just wives, without applying their mind, enacted absurd laws that put unprecedented power into the hands of irresponsible ‘wives’.
eg. An adulterous wife cannot even be prosecuted for adultery (and is in-fact entitled to alimony!). Another is the widespread misuse is dowry protection and domestic violence laws that are used to blackmail and harass innocents. Any ‘wife’ (or even anyone purporting to be acting in her interest) can simply allege harassment on a whim and have the husband & his family members are presumed guilty and summarily arrested without even basic right to honest investigation! Even a terrorist has better rights!
Even Mahatma Gandhi would have been prosecutable under such laws! He has thankfully not lived to see such an India.
Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely! So, responsibility should be part of empowerment and for this it should be accountable.
Such absurd laws encourage immorality and are an insult to the Indian women. How can such a ‘wife’ be respected within a family? Now a ‘wife’ is perceived as a threat, an outsider and a potential ‘legal terrorist’.
The law of the land, instead of guiding the Indian woman to ‘responsible emancipation’ has in its name subsidized crimes. And instead of gracefully accepting and rectifying the mistakes, the law makers are even proceeding to compound it by defending their actions.
There have been many attempts to divide our nation along lines of language, religion, caste, etc. But never the family. Now it pits man against woman, woman against woman and does not spare even children. This foolishness has destroyed the very fabric of the Indian family and achieved in a few years what the mighty British could not in 200! Why blame Pakistan or China? Such law-makers are in-fact, insulting the Constitution itself!
Children – Our Nation’s Future Assets or Liabilities?
Children are the future assets of our nation. There is hardly an Indian child who has not heard from the epics of Ramayana and Mahabharata and been inspired by them. The small child Mohandas, imbibed high morals from his father and mother and later went on to become Mahatma Gandhi – revered as the ‘Father’ of our entire nation! Such a family is blessed indeed!
When the family is destroyed, we destroy the children too. And when the children are destroyed, we destroy the very roots of our nation and hence our nation itself!
The ‘legal terrorist wife’ now uses her children as pawns in a power game, vindictively alienating them from their own father and his side of family over even trivial domestic disagreements. This vulgar demonstration of ill-emancipated power satisfies her ego. But by such alienation also deprives the child of the love and the parenting by the father during its young age. It destroys the very mind of the child. Emotional abuse is the worst form of child abuse, perpetrated by the very person who is supposed to be the nurturer – the child’s mother!
Alienated from a parent, the child grows up, virtually an illegitimate, with a warped psychology, a victim of several psychological syndromes. These syndromes collectively called the Spectrum Parental Alienation Syndrome are the result of over several decades of pioneering research by Dr. Richard Gardner and others in the U.S.
These now accepted internationally and legally by the Human Rights Courts. The study propounds protecting children from such abuse! Hard to believe, but over 40% of such abuse of children is from such ‘wives’. Child abuse is particularly true in divorce proceedings and divorcee women.
How will such a child grow up as an adult to be a good parent?
In-fact studies indicate that over 70% of criminals in the U.S are from single woman as parent families. Such research has lead the western Governments to enact laws and policies towards preserving families, preserving the children’s right to both parents and implementation of shared parenting.
Not even a single psycho-medical research on child alienation has been conducted by India!
Alienating children from their father (either parent) is also illegal and a Child’s Rights (Human Rights) violation. India has acceded to the Child Rights Convention (CRC) of 1989 and is duty bound to protect children from such alienation.
Yet, even after 20 years nothing has been done! Go to the nearest family court and one will see evidence of children being alienated from their fathers for years. Family Courts, indefinitely dish out dates for hearings making children wait for years to see their fathers – hence the courts are even participants in such alienation!
This is the seriousness our law-makers and judiciary attach to the future assets of our nation! And neither seems to have even heard of shared parenting!
So we only shout from the treetops, touting our great Indian values, culture and heritage, blissfully ignorant that the ‘legal terrorists’ enjoying protection of law, are cutting the very roots of the Indian family and creating an army of virtually illegitimate children who will lead a future India!
India is shining or burning?
