“India even has a separate ministry for animals. Why should the men be left out then?” said S Venugopal, convener of Save India Family Foundation (SIFF), Andhra Pradesh chapter, the body that facilitated the launch of AIMWA (All India Men Welfare Association)as per a report in The Times Of India.
It is a fact, even men can be ill-treated in a marriage, it is not the perrogative of the wife only always taken to be the victim.The aggrieved Husbands of Hyderabad have joined together during the Domestic Awareness Month which ended today.
Having found a confidant in each other, these men, claiming to be victims of false dowry harassment cases and domestic abuse, toured the city roads distributing pamphlets about the absence of a law to protect them against such ill-treatment and the need for more ‘male-oriented’ policies. They held campaigns and seminars where they accused the society of being biased towards women and prejudiced against men, and went from one locality to the other asking other traumatised husbands to come forward and report such incidents.
“The pain and agony that men go through, when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face, when ill-treated. But everybody sympathises with the women, the men find no listeners,” said Mohammed Jaleel a member of AIMWA adding, “Whenever I tried to tell people how I was wrongly framed, they either thought I was mad or was trying to cover my misdeeds of harassing my wife by saying all that. Nobody believed anything that I said until I joined this forum.”
Three helplines have been set up by this organisation which is receiving nearly 30-40 calls per day.It is even holding a counselling session for the victims saying that the stress may drive them to develop suicidal tendencies says Parthsarthy, founder member.
The culprits in most cases are the in-laws mostly influential so much so that they are always backing their daughters even if she is wrong and in some cases even got their son-in-laws beaten up by the police.
Even husbands suffer from the hands of wives who can be totally selfish and expect their spouse to leave his own family to cater for her whims, there are females who use domestic violence act and Dowry act for their own benefits, the end result being the boy’s family is destroyed forever but still the wife is always the poor victim.
Such females and their supporters need to be appropriately punished so that it can act as a deterrant for others.