Teenagers there are some that are good all of the time but they are few and far between. If you are or were blessed with even one of those always good ones, count yourself as being one of the very fortunate of peoples of this world. The rest of them well let me just say that they have the other kind.
Let’s face it the trouble with most teenagers’ lies in their parent’s genes or DNA or whatever that thing is that is passed down to them from their parents and grandparents. You know what I mean…that badness or that goofiness or that seriousness or that meanness or that shyness or that cantankerous thing that your father had on his side of the family or your mother had on your mother’s side of the family.
What can we do about those things that we would like to change if we could? Well, in my humble opinion, there exists little or nothing that we can do to change that which is built into them. About all that we can attempt to do is to make ourselves admit to ourselves that our son or our daughter has those traits that we never cared for in him or in her and we must not try to make them different from what they are but we must learn how to work with what he or she has and build as decent a person as we can from what we have got to work with. That means that we must learn that our children’s flow is going to often go against our own flow and at those times we must let that flow of theirs flow around us or over us and then once that is done we must let our flow surround them and comfort them and encourage them in helping them to use their flow to mesh with this worlds’ flow more naturally so that we all can flow and mix our flows together to make life good and sound for all of us everywhere.
What exactly does all of this flowing business need to do with a sometimes disrespectful or a belligerent teenager or a son or daughter that lies or cheats or is just plain lazy or bullies? Well, I think that once we accept the facts about our sons and our daughters their innate shortcomings for what they are and from whence they came and admit to ourselves that our son and our daughter are not going to change those attitudes or those unwanted and often times unwarranted outburst of temper or that laziness that was born in them the sooner we all will see that those episodes that we dislike or even hate about our children will subsist and decline to the point of near extinction. However, if we are unable to accept these unlikable or detestable (to us) traits that are in our own children, well, I am thinking that we are only going to set our family’s lives up for trouble and more trouble until that day comes when our children have children and teens of their very own at which time we as parents get our long awaited parental revenge. But, do you want to wait ten or fifteen years or more for that revenge or would you rather forgo the revenge part and go after the more immediate relief effort that the flowing of all rivers experience on their winding and bumpy way to the everlasting expanse and wonderment of this world’s deep oceans?